How to get ahold of fear

When my fear is triggered, I can question things that in any other moment I know are quite secure. It’s something to respect about our humanity. Fear doesn’t just change

How to be vulnerable and strong at the same time

We all have self-doubt, fear, and other vulnerable emotions. It doesn’t matter how tough, sarcastic or stoic, we've trained ourselves to be. Vulnerability is part of who we are, and

Five Lessons I Had to Learn to Be Better In My Relationships

If you feel frustrated or invisible in certain relationships, I want to share some things: First, you aren’t alone. As with most self-help writing, I am drawn to address subjects

The 5 Surprising Benefits of Anger

Anger often gets a bad rap. It’s the feeling that we often judge as “wrong” or “bad.” But that judgment doesn't give us more control. Denying anger inevitably ends with

5 ways to be more self-compassionate

Instead of judging yourself harshly when you….Feel Angry Appreciate that anger is information. Anger tells you that you are reaching a tolerance limit and you need something. You may need distance from

This shift makes a huge difference

Do you feel like you're giving a lot... to your partner, family and work... but it's not hitting the mark like you thought it would? If the answer is yes,

The power of your autopilot

Don't underestimate the power of your autopilot. Learning to drive a manual-transmission car is the best metaphor I can think of to explain mindlessness, and the relationship between the conscious and

We will never force change

I wrote this early in my counseling career about the realities of addiction .... We will never force change It comes from within and runs from pressure We can only believe in the

The secret to feeling more joy

If you ask yourself "How do I feel right now?" You may draw a blank ... at first. Very often, to be successful in our society, we must pump up our

The Do’s and Don’ts of Persuasion

It may not always seem like it, but fundamentally we all change in a similar way. Ideally in childhood our parents let us experience an appropriate amount of uncomfortable consequences

How to find your authenticity

In a great 90's movie, "City Slickers", the weathered and wise "Curley" torments Billy Crystal's character by promising the answer to one of life's greatest questions..."What's the meaning of life?"