Stress is part of life ...
but relational stress doesn't have to
control your interactions.
Courses & workshops for ...
How do you juggle competing interests at work, and say "no" without doubting yourself? How do you handle the personal stress of difficult management interactions? There aren't always easy answers, but the VUM gives you a roadmap to answers that balance your role with appropriate compassion and authenticity.
What you'll find here
The Authenticity Challenge
We can live in narrow versions of ourselves much more than we may realize. This 5-Day Challenge gives you the tools to recognize and overcome the obstacles that may keep you from "showing up" authentically, or have you overstepping in ways that drain your power and create distance with others.
10-Module Self-Paced Course
3D Boundaries™ for
Learn how to create balance in your personal relationships and work/professional roles, and a proprietary tool for remembering it. The Method gives you a reliable framework for creating boundaries that are balanced in all of the dimensions in which we live.
Teacher, Retired Psychotherapist
Do you feel like you're living in one of two extremes? .... either on autopilot ... mildly checked-out while you meet the demands of work, family and adult responsibility? ... or on-edge and irritable when you really just want to relax and connect with those around you.
You know it's stress. Maybe you've tried a meditation app or yoga classes?
But here's the thing ... before we can relax and connect in the ways that we want, we must make "space" for that connection in two important ways: within ourselves and with others. Our instinct can be to do the opposite though. I learned this from personal experience. Years ago, I thought being "good" meant I should focus primarily on other people, and what they might want or need (which unintentionally made me sort of "invisible" in my closest relationships.) I reached a point of feeling irritable and unfulfilled often, because I wasn't showing up authentically for myself or for the people with whom I wanted to connect.
A mindfulness practice improved my overall stress immensely. But I still wanted to feel more calm and clarity in moments that I felt disagreement or pressure to compromise for someone else, when I also wanted or needed something. That's why I created the resources on this site.
The VisibleU Method™ gives you a roadmap for balancing your needs, with those of the people and world around you. I retired from private practice as a psychotherapist to share it with as many people as I can.
I did my graduate program in applied psychology at New York University and completed mediation training at the Columbia University School of Law. Over 20 years of professional experience, I've held numerous clinical roles, managed clinical operations for a national EAP, and have advised executives on complex employee-relations concerns at Fortune 1000 companies.
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The VisibleU Method tools help you "see" balance between your needs & those of the people and world around you.