The VisibleU Method™ 

3D Boundaries™ for Mindful Communication

 Make the Shift from Frustrated Giver to Influential Contributor ™ 

I retired from private practice to share a secret to balanced communication with as many people as I can.

How many times have you said something in anger, that you regretted later? Or puzzled over a frustrating exchange with a partner or colleague, confounded by their lack of compassion or understanding?

It can feel almost impossible to avoid these types of reactions in certain relationships or moments of stress. But there is a way to restructure these moments, so that you can "see" the balanced response in almost any situation.

Jessica Kiesler Your 3D Boundaries Instructor
The VisibleU Method for Mindful Communication

Learn to communicate in a "Goldilocks" way, that strikes the right balance of compassion for others & yourself. 

What's the right balance of influencing others, and deferring to their wants or needs? In moments of pressure or conflict, it can be an elusive answer.  The VisibleU Method™ (VUM)  clarifies those situations. It gives you a roadmap for communicating with boundaries that connect, protect and respect in all of the dimensions that matter.

💡The VUM gives you a memorable way to "see & say" the balanced thing in almost any stressful interaction

Most of us are trying to manage our communication in a two-dimensional way: "Be authentic. Don't be selfish." But our ability to follow through on that intention is dependent on a third dimension that many people miss. The VUM gives clear definition to that third dimension of communication for which we must have boundaries.

The VisibleU Method for Mindful Communication

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Make the shift from Frustrated Giver
 to Influential Contributor

Go beyond communication strategies that focus on what to say, or how to say it. 📚 This program shows you the tricks to keep a clear perspective and communicate in a connecting and respectful way.

Module 1

Introduction to the VUM & a quick audio practice.

Module 2

A new perspective  on stressful interactions

Module 3

An anchor for balanced communication

Module 4

Your secret weapon for calm under pressure

Module 5

How to protect against upset in your interactions

Module 6

How to ensure you have goodwill to share with others

Module 7

The unintended way we prevent deeper connection 

Module 8

The most common way we sabotage our power

Module 9

The secrets to ongoing fulfillment &  connection

Module 10

The trick for Goldilocks communication

 🙏 Kind words for the teacher

"I find myself looking for the resources i know I have instead of throwing my hands up in frustration. I am truly grateful."


"You are by far the best coach I have ever worked with."


"I feel like i'm getting more compassionate with myself, and ironically I'm more able to give in the ways I was trying to before."


Finally A Roadmap 🗺 for Balanced Communication

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Frequently Asked Questions

How many times can I watch the lessons?

Your purchase gives you lifetime access to the content, so you can watch them as many times as you like.

Who might benefit from this course?

... almost anyone who would like to communicate in a way that clarifies the boundaries for showing up authentically with others, without becoming "selfish".

What makes this course different from other books & trainings?

This course gives you an original (and proprietary) way of thinking about boundaries, and using them in a balanced way at home and work.

"I tend to say too much when I'm in a stressful conversation. Is this for me?"

Yep. Most of us are guilty of this at some point. Emotion can push us past our intentions, when stress gets intense. The course gives you tools to for self-compassion that are invaluable for "keeping your cool".

"I have a hard time engaging in stressful conversations. Is this for me?"

Also yes. Different versions of a similar stress dynamic keep us silent, or overly deferential, when that's not authentic. This course offers tools to remember all that reasons that everyone benefits from your own self-compassion.

Who would not be a good fit for this course?

This course is purely educational and is not intended to be any substitute for individual or couples counseling for a medical or health condition.

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