How many times have you said something in anger, that you regretted later? Or maybe you agonized over a period of time when you felt unable to bridge a stalemate with a partner or colleague?
It can feel almost impossible to avoid these obstacles at times (that's the way I used to feel). But I learned some things in my 20 years as a counselor. And I retired from my private practice to share them as many people as I can.
Everyone wants to feel connected, and be generous, in our personal and professional relationships. We also want (and deserve) to have influence in those relationships. But what's the right balance of seeking influencing and deferring? In moments of pressure or conflict that line can seem very hazy. The VisibleU Method™ (VUM) clarifies those situations. It gives you a roadmap for communicating with boundaries that connect, protect and respect in all of the dimensions that matter.
Most of us are trying to manage our communication in a 2-dimensional way. We "know" that we must respect others, and we aim to use words and actions that do just that. But our ability to follow through on those intentions is equally dependent on the boundaries (or lack thereof) for our inner dialogue, not just our external words. The VUM gives very clear and actionable definition to boundaries for three dimensions in which we live.
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Go beyond communication strategies that focus on what to say, or how to say it. 📚 This program shows you the tricks to maintain a clear perspective to follow through and communicate in a mindful way.
Introduction to the VUM & a quick audio practice.
A new perspective on stressful interactions
An anchor for balanced communication
Your secret weapon for calm under pressure
How to protect against upset in your interactions
How to ensure you have goodwill to share with others
The unintended way we prevent deeper connection
The most common way we sabotage our power
The secrets to ongoing fulfillment & connection
The trick for Goldilocks communication
"I'm finding myself looking for the resources I have instead of throwing my hands up in frustration. I am truly grateful."
"You are by far the best coach I have ever worked with."
"I feel like i'm getting more compassionate with myself, and ironically I'm more able to give in the ways I was try to before."
This course gives you a completely new (and proprietary) way to think about boundaries, and use them in your communication at home and work.
Yep. Most of us are guilty of this at some point. Emotion can push us past our intentions, if stress (especially unconscious stress) gets too big. The course gives you tools to address that.
Also yes. Different versions of the same dynamic keep us silent, or overly deferential. This course offers tools to keep your communication with others (and with yourself) in an objective and compassionate place.
This course is purely educational and is not intended to be any substitute for individual or couples counseling for a medical or health condition.
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