The VisibleU Method 

3D Boundaries for Communication

🤦‍♀️ Tired of self-doubt or regret 
about stressful interactions?

How many times have you said something you regretted later? Or ruminated about a frustrating exchange with a partner or colleague, confounded by their lack of understanding?

In moments like these, It can feel impossible to do things differently. But there is a way to see the balanced words or actions more clearly.

3D boundaries for mindful communication

🙌 Stop Playing Small or Getting Upset 

Should you speak up or stay quiet? Defer or try to persuade? It's tough to balance being authentic & being respectful. The VisibleU Method™ gives you guidelines to help you communicate in a balanced way, even during stress.

 🔑 See & Say the Balanced Thing

You want to be authentic ... but you don't want to cause upset or disappoint others.  Those two things are often at odds with each other. This course shows you the key to your best answer in any tough interaction. 

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Your Roadmap 🗺 in Stressful Interactions

Module 1

Introduction to the VUM & a quick audio practice.

Module 2

A new perspective  on stressful interactions

Module 3

An anchor for balanced communication

Module 4

Your secret weapon for calm under pressure

Module 5

How to protect against upset in your interactions

Module 6

How to ensure you have goodwill to share with others

Module 7

The unintended way we prevent deeper connection 

Module 8

The most common way we sabotage our power

Module 9

The secrets to ongoing fulfillment &  connection

Module 10

The trick for Goldilocks communication

 🙏 Kind words for the teacher

"I find myself looking for the resources i know I have instead of throwing my hands up in frustration. I am truly grateful."


"You are by far the best coach I have ever worked with."


"I feel like I'm getting more compassionate with myself, and ironically I'm more able to give, in the ways I was trying to before."


3D Boundaries™ for Communication

Frequently Asked Questions

When does this session of the course begin?

You get access to the course hub and all ten modules of videos, audios, and worksheets, right away. 

"Is this course designed for people to do together? ... maybe someone with whom I have difficult interactions?"

Actually no. This course is focused to help individuals do their best in their own communication. The framework can be helpful for many people, but its focus is individual contributions to interactions.

What makes this course different from other books & trainings?

The 3D Boundaries™ course gives you an easy to remember and proprietary framework for healthy boundaries at home and at work.

"I tend to say too much when I'm in a stressful conversation. Is this for me?"

Yep. Stress can push us past our intentions, in tough moments. The course gives you tools to stand with yourself authentically, without "going too far."

"I have a hard time engaging in stressful conversations. Is this for me?"

Also yes. Different versions of a similar dynamic keep us silent, or overly deferential, in ways that aren't authentic. The VUM was designed to help you value your own needs, as well as others.

Who would not be a good fit for this course?

This course is purely educational and is not intended to be any substitute for  counseling or treatment for a medical or health condition.

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Jessica Kiesler - mindful communication

Jessica Kiesler, MA

Consultant, Retired Psychotherapist

The VisibleU Method™ gives you a roadmap to balance your needs, with those of the people and world around you.

I did my master's degree in applied psychology at New York University, and completed mediation training at the Columbia University School of Law. Over 20 years of professional experience, I've held numerous clinical roles, managed clinical operations for a national EAP, and have advised executives on complex employee-relations concerns at Fortune 1000 companies.

Read more about Jessica 

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