The VisibleU Method™ 

3D Boundaries™ for Mindful Communication

Tired of self-doubt or regret 🤦‍♀️ about stressful interactions?

How many times have you said something, that you regretted later? Or ruminated about a frustrating exchange with a partner or colleague, confounded by their lack of compassion or understanding?

In moments like these, It can feel impossible to do it differently. But there is a way to see the balanced words or actions more clearly.

3D boundaries for mindful communication

Learn to communicate in your "Goldilocks" way 🙌

Should you speak up or stay quiet? Defer or try to persuade? They can be tough calls. The VisibleU Method™ (VUM) gives you guidelines to help you communicate in a balanced way, even during stress.

The VUM is a memorable way 🔑 to see & say the balanced thing

Many of us are trying to manage our communication in a two-dimensional way: "Be authentic and don't cause upset or disappointment." But those two things are going to be at odds sometimes. The VUM clarifies a third dimension of boundaries to help you navigate those confusing moments. 

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Your roadmap 🗺 for balance in tough interactions

Go beyond what to say or how to say it

Module 1

Introduction to the VUM & a quick audio practice.

Module 2

A new perspective  on stressful interactions

Module 3

An anchor for balanced communication

Module 4

Your secret weapon for calm under pressure

Module 5

How to protect against upset in your interactions

Module 6

How to ensure you have goodwill to share with others

Module 7

The unintended way we prevent deeper connection 

Module 8

The most common way we sabotage our power

Module 9

The secrets to ongoing fulfillment &  connection

Module 10

The trick for Goldilocks communication

 🙏 Kind words for the teacher

"I find myself looking for the resources i know I have instead of throwing my hands up in frustration. I am truly grateful."


"You are by far the best coach I have ever worked with."


"I feel like I'm getting more compassionate with myself, and ironically I'm more able to give, in the ways I was trying to before."


Finally A Roadmap 🗺 for Balanced Communication

Frequently Asked Questions

When does this session of the course begin?

You get access to the course modules right away. Live webinars for this session begin April 20, 2021 at 7:30pm CST and continue for six weeks. Webinars will be 60-minutes in length, and recordings will be available afterward, if you cannot attend live.

"Is this course designed for people to do together? ... maybe someone with whom I have difficult interactions?"

Actually no. This course is focused to help individuals do their best in their own communication. The framework can be helpful for many people, but its focus is on an individual's own contribution to their interactions.

What makes this course different from other books & trainings?

The 3D Boundaries™ course gives you an easy to remember (and proprietary) way of thinking about boundaries for your communication at home and work.

"I tend to say too much when I'm in a stressful conversation. Is this for me?"

Yep. Stress can push us past our intentions, in tough moments. The course gives you tools to stand with yourself authentically, without "going too far."

"I have a hard time engaging in stressful conversations. Is this for me?"

Also yes. Different versions of a similar dynamic keep us silent, or overly deferential, in ways that aren't authentic. The VUM was designed to help you value your own needs, as well as others.

Who would not be a good fit for this course?

This course is purely educational and is not intended to be any substitute for  counseling or treatment for a medical or health condition.

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Jessica Kiesler - mindful communication

Jessica Kiesler

Your Teacher

The VisibleU Method™ gives you a roadmap to balance your needs, with those of the people and world around you.

I did my master's degree in applied psychology at New York University, and completed mediation training at the Columbia University School of Law. Over 20 years of professional experience, I've held numerous clinical roles, managed clinical operations for a national EAP, and have advised executives on complex employee-relations concerns at Fortune 1000 companies.

Read more about Jessica 


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