Stress is an ongoing part of life ...
but relational stress doesn't have to
control your interactions.
Courses & workshops for ...
Harmony in Your Personal Relationships
Finding the "right" boundaries for your communication as a partner or parent, is no easy task. The VisibleU Method™ (VUM) gives you a concrete framework for balancing self-care, with all of the contributions you want to make in your closest relationships.
How do you juggle competing interests at work, and say "no" without doubting yourself? How do you handle the personal stress of difficult management interactions? There aren't always easy answers, but the VUM gives you a roadmap to answers that balance your role with appropriate compassion and authenticity.
Communication that is both Connecting & Respectful
Stress will push us into extremes of arguing or distancing if we let it. But we can take hold of our inner experience, and settle it, so that we can build bridges of connection with our words and actions, instead of damage with harsh words or resentment.
What you'll find here
The Authenticity Challenge
We can live in narrow versions of ourselves much more than we may realize. This 5-Day Challenge gives you the tools to recognize and shift the habits that either keep you from "showing up" authentically, or may have you overstepping in ways that drain your power and create distance with others.
10-Module Self-Paced Course
3D Boundaries™ for
The VisibleU Method™ clarifies how to see and strike a balance between your needs and those of the people and world around you. Learn how to stay clear about a healthy balance in your personal relationships and your work/professional roles. The method gives you a reliable framework for creating boundaries out in your day-to-day life, that are balanced in all of the dimensions in which we live.
Teacher, Retired Psychotherapist
Do you feel like you're living in one of two extremes? .... either on autopilot ... mildly checked-out while you meet the demands of work, family and adult responsibility? ... or on-edge and irritable when you really just want to relax and connect with those around you.
You know it's stress. Maybe you've tried a meditation app or yoga classes?
But here's the thing ... before we can relax and connect in the ways that we want, we must make "space" for that connection in two important ways: within ourselves and with others. Our instinct can be to do the opposite though. I learned this from personal experience. Years ago, I thought being "good" meant I should focus primarily on other people, and what they might want or need (which unintentionally made me sort of "invisible" in my closest relationships.) But of course, inevitably I reached a point of feeling irritable and unfulfilled, because I wasn't showing up for myself in the ways that you must.
Mindfulness practices improved my overall stress immensely. But I wanted to feel more calm and clarity in moments that I felt disagreement or pressure to compromise for someone else, when I also wanted or needed something. That's why I created the resources on this site.
The VisibleU Method™ gives you a roadmap to balance your needs, with those of the people and world around you.
I have a Master’s in Applied Psychology from New York University and completed mediation training at the Columbia University School of Law. Over 20 years of professional experience, I've held numerous clinical roles, managed clinical operations for a national EAP, and have advised executives on complex employee-relations concerns at Fortune 1000 companies.
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