Stress is a part of life ...
but relational stress doesn't have to be.
Programs & Workshops for ...
How do you juggle competing interests at work, and say "no" without doubting yourself? How do you handle the personal stress of difficult management interactions? There aren't always easy answers, but the VUM gives you a roadmap to answers that balance your role with appropriate compassion and authenticity.
What you'll find here
The Authenticity Challenge
We can live in narrow versions of ourselves much more than we may realize. This 5-Day Challenge gives you the tools to recognize and overcome obstacles that may keep you from "showing up" authentically, or have you overstepping in ways that drain your power and create distance with others.
10-Module Foundation Course
3D Boundaries™ for
Learn a framework for mindful communication that you can use for the rest of your life. The course gives you clear and memorable guidelines to "see and say" the balanced thing, even in stressful moments.
Mindful Communication Teacher, Retired Psychotherapist
Do you feel like you're living in one of two extremes? .... either on autopilot ... mildly checked-out while you meet the demands of work, family and adult responsibility? ... or on-edge and irritable when you really just want to relax and connect with those around you.
You know it's stress. Maybe you've tried a meditation app or yoga classes?
But here's the thing ... before we can relax and connect in the ways that we want, we must make "space" for that connection in two important ways: within ourselves and with others. Our instinct can be to do the opposite though. Before my clinical training, I thought being "good" meant I should focus primarily on other people, and what they might want or need (which unintentionally made me sort of "invisible" in my closest relationships.) Not surprisingly, I felt lonely and unfulfilled at times, because I wasn't showing up authentically with other people and for myself.
Mindfulness practices improved my overall stress immensely. But I still wanted to feel more clarity in moments of disagreement or pressure to compromise. That's why I created the resources on this site.
The VisibleU Method™ gives you a roadmap to balance your needs, with those of the people and world around you. I retired from private practice to share it with as many people as I can.
I did my master's degree in applied psychology at New York University, and completed mediation training at the Columbia University School of Law. Over 20 years of professional experience, I've held numerous clinical roles, managed clinical operations for a national EAP, and have advised executives on complex employee-relations concerns at Fortune 1000 companies.
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